Resources & Support for Domestic Violence Survivors
Information and tools to help you create a safer future
Resources, advocates, and communities that care
Empowerment and healing for you and your family
A future free from violence is possible. You deserve it.
Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
Constant criticism, humiliation, or name calling
Isolation from family, friends, church, school, or work
Controlling money, transportation, or employment
Monitoring phones, email, social media, location, or passwords
Explosive anger, intimidation, or threats
Threatening the survivor, children, pets, family, or friends
Blaming the survivor for the abuser's actions
Gaslighting, manipulation, and making the survivor doubt reality
Physical violence, choking, restraining, or blocking exits
Sexual coercion, pressure, or reproductive control
Controlling clothing, movement, medical care, or daily decisions
Destroying property, keepsakes, documents, or phones
Loving apologies after harm, followed by repeated abuse
Using children, immigration status, faith, money, or housing as leverage
Threatening self-harm or suicide if the survivor leaves
Leaving can be the most dangerous time. Whenever possible, plan with a trained domestic violence advocate.
Look for sudden isolation, fearfulness around a partner, unexplained injuries, frequent check-ins with the partner, loss of confidence, financial dependence, withdrawal from normal activities, or a partner who controls clothing, transportation, communication, money, or access to family and friends.
Survivors may return because of trauma bonding, fear, threats, housing insecurity, finances, children, immigration concerns, faith pressure, shame, or love for the person harming them. Stay connected. Do not shame them. Keep offering resources, safety planning, transportation, and a nonjudgmental path back to help.
Learn warning signs. Check in consistently. Create safe words. Offer transportation or temporary housing when safe. Hold copies of documents or an emergency bag. Share hotline and local coalition information. Support financial independence. Avoid publicly posting details that could expose the survivor's location or plan.
Abuse is the responsibility of the abuser. Survivors often hide abuse because they are afraid, ashamed, monitored, threatened, or trying to survive. You may not have known the full danger. Your role now is to support, believe, help plan safely, and connect the person to trained advocates.
Most state coalitions are not emergency response agencies. In immediate danger, contact 911 if it is safe to do so.
| State / Territory | Coalition / Resource | Website |
|---|---|---|
| Alabama | Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence | acadv.org |
| Alaska | Alaska Network on Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault | andvsa.org |
| Arizona | Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence | acesdv.org |
| Arkansas | Arkansas Coalition Against Domestic Violence | domesticpeace.com |
| California | California Partnership to End Domestic Violence | cpedv.org |
| Colorado | Violence Free Colorado | violencefreecolorado.org |
| Connecticut | Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence | ctcadv.org |
| Delaware | Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence | dcadv.org |
| District of Columbia | DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence | dccadv.org |
| Florida | Florida Partnership to End Domestic Violence | fpedv.org |
| Georgia | Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence | gcadv.org |
| Hawaii | Hawaii State Coalition Against Domestic Violence | hscadv.org |
| Idaho | Idaho Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence | idahocoalition.org |
| Illinois | Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence | ilcadv.org |
| Indiana | Indiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence | icadvinc.org |
| Iowa | Iowa Coalition Against Domestic Violence | icadv.org |
| Kansas | Kansas Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence | kcsdv.org |
| Kentucky | ZeroV (formerly Kentucky Coalition Against Domestic Violence) | zerov.org |
| Louisiana | Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence | lcadv.org |
| Maine | Maine Coalition to End Domestic Violence | mcedv.org |
| Maryland | Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence | mnadv.org |
| Massachusetts | Jane Doe Inc. — Massachusetts Coalition Against Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence | janedoe.org |
| Michigan | Michigan Coalition to End Domestic & Sexual Violence | mcedsv.org |
| Minnesota | Violence Free Minnesota | vfmn.org |
| Mississippi | Mississippi Coalition Against Domestic Violence | mcadv.org |
| Missouri | Missouri Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence | mocadsv.org |
| Montana | Montana Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence | mcadsv.com |
| Nebraska | Nebraska Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence | nebraskacoalition.org |
| Nevada | Nevada Coalition to End Domestic and Sexual Violence | ncedsv.org |
| New Hampshire | New Hampshire Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence | nhcadsv.org |
| New Jersey | New Jersey Coalition to End Domestic Violence | njcedv.org |
| New Mexico | New Mexico Coalition Against Domestic Violence | nmcadv.org |
| New York | New York State Coalition Against Domestic Violence | nyscadv.org |
| North Carolina | North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence | nccadv.org |
| North Dakota | North Dakota Domestic & Sexual Violence Coalition | nddsvc.org |
| Ohio | Ohio Domestic Violence Network | odvn.org |
| Oklahoma | Oklahoma Attorney General Certified Victim Services List | oag.ok.gov |
| Oregon | Oregon Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence | ocadsv.org |
| Pennsylvania | Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence | pcadv.org |
| Rhode Island | Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence | ricadv.org |
| South Carolina | South Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault | sccadvasa.org |
| South Dakota | South Dakota Network Against Family Violence and Sexual Assault | sdnafvsa.com |
| Tennessee | Tennessee Coalition to End Domestic & Sexual Violence | tncoalition.org |
| Texas | Texas Council on Family Violence | tcfv.org |
| Utah | Utah Domestic Violence Coalition | udvc.org |
| Vermont | Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence | vtnetwork.org |
| Virginia | Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance | vsdvalliance.org |
| Washington | Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence | wscadv.org |
| West Virginia | West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic Violence | wvcadv.org |
| Wisconsin | End Domestic Abuse Wisconsin | endabusewi.org |
| Wyoming | Wyoming Coalition Against Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault | wyomingdvsa.org |
| Puerto Rico | Coordinadora Paz para las Mujeres | pazparalasmujeres.org |
| U.S. Virgin Islands | Virgin Islands Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse Council | vidvsac.org |
| Guam | Guam Coalition Against Sexual Assault & Family Violence | guamcoalition.org |
| American Samoa | American Samoa Alliance Against Domestic and Sexual Violence | asalliance.co |
| Northern Mariana Islands | Northern Marianas Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence | Facebook Page |
Share this guide. Start conversations. Check on neighbors, coworkers, friends, and loved ones. Domestic violence thrives in silence and isolation. Awareness, compassion, preparation, and connection to trained advocates can save lives.